Do all p38s have it? My friends doesn't so I was wondering if it just wants enabling in the becm which I can do with nanocom?

Oh,...and I'm assuming lazy locking is the correct terminology for closing all the windows when the lock button on the fob is held down. Lol.

From the Nanocom BeCM documentation:

Lazy locking: Changes the situations in which lazy locking is allowed

That is under Diagnostics - Settings - Alarm. What the options are though I have no idea (without going outside into the current thunderstorm and having a look at mine, which I don't intend doing).