Well, only 6 years after starting this thread I reckon I can tick this job off the list... all the black/AshGrey door cards fitted, and (almost) all the speakers working. Delighted. All I need now is an MOT so I can get out and enjoy it!
I initially decided to use the 'mid speaker' wiring as the feed for the crossover, after removing the capacitor. Before going any further though, having removed the capacitor, I reconnected the mid speaker and got a good volume so I was happy to proceed.
However, once I'd done the wiring (as above) with the tweeter and the mid on the same crossover output, and tested it all, I was getting next to nothing from the mid speaker. I guess this makes sense if it was only getting the tweeter signal.
I slept on that, after having done one door, and then decided to rewire it using the bass / woofer wiring as the feed to the crossover. The crossover now only supplies the woofer and the new tweeters; and I re-connected the mid speaker to it's original wiring (minus the capacitor). All good. Decent output from 8 out of 10 speakers, and I'm really pleased with the sound - though I'm no audiophile. Quite pleased with the neat-ness of the install too, fitting the crossovers in the space where the door amps go.
As I'd done the rear doors before learning about the capacitor in the mid-speaker wiring, those two speakers are still being fed via the capacitors and aren't doing much. So one tiny thing to do yet, once I can find the enthusiasm or the need to remove the 2nd row doorcards again, would be to remove those capacitors from the mid speaker supply - but I can't call that any kind of priority. It makes me wonder whether the factory headunit, even one using the ISO plugs, was sending out a 'chunkier' signal to the door speakers, necessitating the capacitor on the mid speaker wiring, but still allowing enough to get through to generate some output?
Anyhow I'm happy, and grateful for all the advice that's helped me get this far. Ta.